It sometimes happens that aggressive behaviour in a child becomes a problem and can even hinder their education progress. Our guide outlines how to deal with and stop aggressive behaviour in children.
Strategies to stop aggressive behaviour in children
First of all, it is very important to know that aggression problems in children in the defiance phase do not arise simply for no reason. Accordingly, when you want to stop aggressive behaviour in children, you should try to find out the reasons for your child’s aggressive behavior. The smaller the children, the more impulsive and undirected, in most cases the aggression and the more unspecific the reasons for them.
For example, it is often enough for a young child if they have not got enough sleep. Fatigue and other conditions that are unpleasant or overwhelming for the child can also quickly turn into aggression. They are usually directed against the parents, other children or objects. For more evaluation, visit an Urgent Care Pediatrician for more professional advice about your child’s behavioral problems and to teach you how to deal with and handle them.
Boys and girls are different
Aggressive children, who are older and perhaps already in puberty, in many cases already live out their aggressive behavior much more directed and have more specific reasons for this. It is also very typical that boys are much more likely to be aggressive than girls in the defiance phase.
Boys are generally more likely to have problems and difficulties in puberty. Girls instead often target themselves with aggression. They withdraw within themselves and become passively aggressive, which can cause eating disorders or self-injuring behavior. Boys, on the other hand, beat and beat, destroy objects or stand out through screaming, bullying and other hyperactive behaviors.
Tip: Depression and other mental disorders are often expressed in children through aggressive behaviour, among other things.
Reasons for aggression are manifold
Aggression in children can be caused by many different influences, with typical reasons being conflicts with other children, anxiety, problems at school or even conflicts in the (single) parental home. More serious causes can be psychological. Aggressive and hyperactive behavior are typical ADHD/ADS symptoms, so may indicate attention deficit syndrome.
If the ADS symptoms are clear, you may need to take an ADHD test and use ADHD medications if the attention deficit is clearly diagnosed. Abused children also use aggression against others, for example, and themselves often as a kind of cry for help. Parents and educators should be listened to and possibly take professional therapeutic measures to help stop aggressive behaviour in children.
What is ADHD?
The three main symptoms of ADHD are hyperactivity, inattention and impulsivity. ADHD is considered congenital behavioral disorder and ADHD causes are neurobiological dysfunctions in the areas of the brain that are responsible for concentration, perception and impulse control. ADHD is therefore not, as is often falsely claimed, triggered by anti-authoritarian parenting and false parental counselling, but is a mental behavioural and developmental disorder that needs to be treated.
Setting limits in the event of inappropriate behaviour
To a certain extent, aggression is part of normal behavior. This is important for the development of a child. As a parent, you should not suspect equally serious problems in every case of aggression. Nevertheless, some observation of aggressive actions in children is important. In addition, you should act consistently in the event of inappropriate aggression and bullying and prevent this.
Only in this way can children learn to assess and dose their own aggression properly. Sport, a lot of exercise and also the practice of hobbies provide distraction and can give children the feeling of being busy and busy with interesting things, which automatically helps prevent aggression and violence and increases their ability to concentrate.
In conversation, situations can be defused and problems solved
You should also talk to your children about their aggression, especially if they occur more frequently. The older the children are, the more likely they are to reflect and express their own feelings and states. In many cases, a conversation can already produce important aspects that can help to solve the problems and aggression.
If the conversations in the parental home or with the supervising educators during an educational counselling offer do not bring about an improvement in the management of aggression, therapeutic childcare is often the last possibility of education. The type of therapy used depends on the fundamental problem.
In addition to behavioural and talk therapy measures, occupational therapy or violence therapy can also be helpful. Some children also have certain dietary measures or relaxation therapies to help them deal with their anxiety and aggression.
Educational aids
If aggressive children are having problems with raising children, you can also use the Internet and appropriate literature to help you raise your education. In a parent forum, you can use other parents’ experiences as parenting guides and find other parenting tips. In this way, you get a corresponding theoretical background, which allows you to act more competently in certain situations with aggressive behavior of your children and to make the problems more easily reflected.
Only with the right background knowledge will it be possible to better assess the behaviour of aggressive children and to apply the right parenting methods in the long term.
